Been a minute since I blogged..I was starting to wonder if I'd end up being a "one blog wonder" hehe
Anyone who came on this blog n saw d topic n thought "rape"..guess what!! *drum roll* u're wrong (-_-)
I've read a few rape blogs lately n I thought.."We need a breather"..my next post tho..*in 51 iweka rd onitsha voice* WATCHOUT!
Anyone who's atheist or even semi atheist probably won't relate to this blog much but the question is..how do you know when to draw the line between God and science?
Today I was talking about genotype testing between couples and it got me thinking..we all know 2 people who are AS are adviced against marriage because scientifically they have a high chance of producing an offspring that has sickle cell anemia"
Now Mr A falls in love with Miss C..its all rosy..they've been dating for a while,its gettin serious..they are starting to think "forever"..next step..genotype testing(now I knw its adviceable 2knw this before dating anyone but let's just assume 4assumption sake uve made d mistake of not knowin..like ur resident doctor who doesn't know her genotype(moi X_x)
If you are in this case and u find out that u are both AS even though u have prayed and fasted already and Gods approval is there would u ignore the science and risk the possibility of an AS child or would u put ur faith aside and think of what a child with sickle cell anemia would suffer and just end the relationship?
if we'v prayed and gotten Gods approval, yes i'd definitely go ahead. Do you know how hard it is to find someone you love, someone that completes you totally? To now abandon that cos of some snotty children i'v never met? Ko jor. I'd rather get married and adopt than losin the love of my life over some scientific stats........#justmyopinion
ReplyDeleteWell if u really have faith and believe the lame do walk and blind do see then you can pray your blood to AA. 'This is our faith!' I actually do have a female friend(who is now married) that prayed her genotype from SS to AA
ReplyDeletehmmn, tough one...I know a couple that both of them are AS and they have 4 kids, all 4 kids are AA. Personally, I think it's a very extreme risk to take, but if they have the faith or the emotional capacity to nuture an SS child...why break it up?
ReplyDelete*thank God I'm AA, I don't have this fear*
*sealed lips*
ReplyDeleteKi oloun gbakoso!
I'll definitely take it to God in prayer,involve my Pastor in it as well... If God grants d go ahead so be it.
ReplyDeleteLol @ chari
ReplyDelete@ dotun the point is if any of the kids turns out to be a sickler ur d 1 who wud go thru the stress o n d emotional weight of watchin ur child suffer
@wellsbaba I totally agree with that..
@ kenneth I've heard cases like that too..I have a friend he said he used to be ss and after prayers he's Aa now
@daguestion1 true a lot of people believe its u being selfish n evil takin that risk regardless but personally I thnk its about ur faith
Let's not be selfish please. Marriage is not all about the man and his wife, but about the children too. Why allow children to come into the world and suffer?
ReplyDeleteI think God gave us brains so that we can give Him rest. When an SS child is birthed in agony, the trauma on his end is physical, emotional, psychological; but your own pain as parents of the child is only psychological, maybe borderline emotional.
Please spare your children. Break off the relationship if you find out too late (but rather try to find out soon if you are an AS). Better to cry over that than cry over spilt milk when the child or children suffer. I have lost friends who are SS carriers so I know.
Fortunately I am AA :)
@Olly@Qurr its easy for you to talk about the childs pain, but can u imagine leaving the person you love to marry someone you like, not only will you resent the woman you'll probably also resent the kids too.
ReplyDeleteThats why i said i need Gods approval before going forward but like i said i'd rather adopt than give up on love.
My pastor is AS so is his wife, they're married with two beautiful and healthy kids, they knew abt it b4 marriage and when God told them to go forward they did. I dont serve a God who enjoys my pain. He loves me and guides, i'm AS so i kno wat i'm talkin abt, but thankfully my fiancee is AA, but if she was not i wouldnt leave her.
"My People perish for the lack of knowledge...Y be selfish and risk ur kids lives?? If u've ever seen the pain these SS ppl go thru, u'd blame d parents for bringing dem to life..TRUE LOVE ISN'T SELFISH #shikenah
ReplyDeleteI'm a christain,I believe in miracles,but I also know that am not supposed the lord God 2 test.
ReplyDeleteI'm an idealist,if I was AS(am AA) nd I meet sum1 who is AS.1st tin I'd fink is,maybe that person is not
Meant 2 be my husband in the 1st place.You see,as much as I believe in
Love,I think a marriage needs more than that.u probably will never
Understand what it means 2 care 4 an SS child-@ sum point,that child resents u 4 makin
Him go thru that lifetime of pain. If u av that much faith 2 pray 4 God not 2 give u an ss child,pls divert the
Prayer in2 askin him for another soul mate.
IMO-an as marryn as is the most selfish risk 2 take-when the problem arises,love sef go clear.
I av lost 2 very dear ppl 2 Sickle-cell.both lived a life of pain nd sickness 2 d last day.
Its never worth it. God is not a magician,he does miracles,yes I know..but we also av 2 make the right choices.
Would u marry an HIV positive person just cos u love him/her nd pray that God will heal him?
My thoughts..
ds genotype issue has always stired up serious arguements weneva its raised. Frankly speaking,if we hav prayd n God reveals we re meant 2 b,den i wld go ahead n marry her.d fact dat our heavenly father has approvd means i ve notin 2 fear.i ve seen pple both wt AS gt married n giv birth 2 AA. So its a risk am willing 2 take.
ReplyDeleteBy d way,my genotype is AS,incase any1 is interestd. *wink*
@tunrayo I agree with u and I see where ur coming from but still look @ a lot of people in d bible..sarah was 99 when she concieved.scientifically that's not possible.even she laughed but it happened.plus an As marryin an As is not a 100 percent signature they would have an ss child its just that they have "a high risk".its like a child who has 2 diabetic parents.there's a high risk the child would have diabetes but it doesn't mean they will.I've also seen AS couples that have healthy kids and the risk of an SS child is mainly from the 3rd child.
ReplyDeleteFrankly if it were me I'd go ahead with d marriage(ONLY if I have consulted God n he gave me the go ahead) I wnt use science as a basis to leave someone I love unless I knw God isn't in support also.
Oh Gawd! My original post went off.ok,would u even bother askin God if he'd give a go ahead if dis partner was HIV positive? U knw why its easier 2 tie dis tin 2 God's permission? Because the effect of that decision is not directly affected by one.but also,there this proces I heard of,wia u can check a childs genotype in d earlist stage of conception nd decide which keep..that's another option.I'd also always advice that ppl who are AS should always try and find out d other person's genotype asap,b4 serious love hook both of them.also if ur faith no strong,no try am oh..
ReplyDelete"I'm a christain,I believe in miracles,but I also know that am not supposed the lord God 2 test."
ReplyDeleteThis is one situation where i'm not sure what to say. I'm AA so yea..i'm a free lancer :D
ReplyDeletei'm just rather worried about the rest of my lineage..grand kids and ish. LOL.. If i'm hooked up with an AS, there is a 1:1 ratio/ 50% chance of AS kids yea.. so, if i bear 2 off springs, and man dem are AS, then the burden of; ''should i go ahead and get with this person although we both are AS and can have SS kids'' will fall on them... My point, after all the rigmarole is, no one is really exempted..what if you have SS grand kids?..wahala dey.